â€śSay it loud! Iâ€™m Black and Iâ€™m proud!â€ť Thank you Mr. James Brown because now I can adapt the lyrics to suit myself.
â€śSay it loud! Iâ€™m Gay and Iâ€™m proud!â€ť While some lesbians may protest my use of the word â€śGayâ€ť to describe myself, keep in mind that I am merely maintaining the meter of the slogan. Besides, it may be time for us to call ourselves by a name that sounds like weâ€™re having some fun.
Men get to say, â€śIâ€™m GAY!â€ť and feel good about it, especially since they always have thumping music and disco balls to back them up.
We say â€śIâ€™m LESBIAN!â€ť and people look at us sadly, as though weâ€™re missing out on something. Some people have trouble mustering up the courage to say the word at all. How many times can we laugh at folks saying â€śLebaneseâ€ť without feeling sorry or confused?
Iâ€™m suggesting that we call ourselves â€śPLAYâ€ť -- a word that implies that weâ€™re having fun and not taking ourselves so seriously. We could then be PLAYMATES and solve the dilemma of what to call ourselves. â€śLoversâ€ť is too personal and denies the bed death we may actually be experiencing, and â€śpartnersâ€ť sounds like weâ€™re in business together and not necessarily the â€śloveâ€ť business!
We can have PLAY DATES alone, together, or in groups with other PLAYERS! Wow, Iâ€™m turning myself on with all the possibilities.
Wouldnâ€™t it be fun to walk up to a woman youâ€™re interested in and ask her if sheâ€™d like to play with you? Imagine the intrigue, the innuendo, the heart-pounding excitement of playing with a girl you really like! And when you donâ€™t feel like playing anymore, you wonâ€™t have to feel the harsh sting of rejection. You can simply find someone else to play with, someone who plays the way you do.
Iâ€™ve been called a â€śplayerâ€ť but it always felt judgmental or derogatory, like thereâ€™s something wrong with me because I enjoy the company of women, different women for different activities. Iâ€™ve incurred jealousy and resentment but rarely praise for my playing skills.
Itâ€™s time for women-loving-women to ease up on ourselves, to remember why weâ€™ve chosen this lifestyle in the first place. I truly fear us becoming lesbians in straight-face, so eager for approval of the â€śmainstreamâ€ť that we lose our fierceness in the process. Itâ€™s my feeling that the marriage agenda too often usurps our pride in our differences, and makes us desire to be â€ślike everyone else.â€ť Well I, for one, do not want to be like everyone else! I miss the true diversity of our lesbian communityâ€¦the SMers, sex rebels, celibates, serial daters, and out and proud players.
So this PRIDE season, come out and PLAY, all you PLAYERS
and PLAYMATES on PLAY DATES! â€śSay it loud! I PLAY and Iâ€™m proud!â€ť